Archive for May, 2011

No Expectations

May 16, 2011

As we can see here- when the outcome falls short of the expectation, there will be disappointment.

I learnt a very important lesson this week.

How many times have you stepped into a highly-recommended restaurant only to find out that even you could cook better than them? How many times have you bought a latest gadget only to find out that half of the things you hoped it could do did not turn out as you hoped it would?

How many times have you raised your expectations of something only to let the outcome disappoint you?

The lesson here is a very simple one; when you set high expectations for something, you also set yourself up for disappointment.

Fortunately in this case, the opposite holds true too, allow me to explain.

Last week, I was offered a new job. However due to some unfavorable job conditions, there was a lot of hand wringing and second-guessing on my part whether to accept it or not.

In the end, I decided it was a Sagittarius thing to plunge into something I had never done before without thinking too much about how it would turn out.

Now one week wiser, I know that it would have been one of my biggest regrets to have turned down that job offer. My new job isn’t a job my readers, it almost feels like I’m being paid to play.

So I guess this week’s story has a happy ending. Everyone likes a happy ending right? Especially if it involves me ^_^

I just find it so fascinating that something as simple as consciously lowering or not having any expectation from something can have such a positive effect on your emotions.

Furthermore, in situations where you have a role in affecting the outcome, like a new relationship or a new job, maybe it is best to not think too much about what you are going to get out of it.

Instead, just focus on giving it your 100% effort and knowing in your heart that you did your best. You will just have to trust that the universe has its ways of rewarding your good work, even if it is not immediate.

This could be why all my past blog attempts failed. I expected perfection when we all know that perfection is an unachievable feat.

Thus, I hope none of you are really expecting excellent articles from here, because I know this blog was founded on imperfections. Or else the only thing you’ll find here would be disappointment…and anger towards me.

 

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Herd Mentality

May 9, 2011

As we can see here- sheep are not at the top of the food chain because they are best at following other sheep blindly.

The citizens of Singapore are some of the most fervid subscribers of herd mentality on the face of Earth if you did ask me. First came the long queues for Hello Kitty soft toys and then it was the bubble tea craze. Both were such red hot topics of their times that even the national newspapers ran articles about them.

If New Zealand is famous for having more sheep than humans, then Singapore should be famous for having more people behaving like sheep than anywhere else.

So what’s the latest trend? Iphone fever.

Singaporeans who own these generic phones like to think that they reached the next level of coolness. I like to think they look like two idiots who turned up at a costume party wearing the same, totally identical, costume.

At this moment you would have probably guessed correctly that I am not one for following trends all that much.

Not following the crowd has its pains too you know. Just the other day I was looking for a protective casing for my phone (of a rarer model) in some mobile accessory shop. The lady at the shop told me they only had one type and it was one of those rubbery, tight-fitting kinda casings.

I didn’t like it and fortunately for her she didn’t speak English, otherwise I would have told her “No thank you, it feels like I am holding my phone with a condom on.”

So like the polite boy my mommy raised me to be, I just smiled, shook my head and beat a hasty retreat.

There could be many reasons why Singaporeans turned out this way, but for simplicity’s sake I shall just blame it all on the government. A rigid education system that stifles creativity. A social culture of relentless material pursuit that rarely lets us stop to smell the roses.

And who can ever forget the system that (used to) crack down on people with…different…political views?

Thus in a society that favors conformity, I have a notable amount of respect for those who dare to deviate from the norm and strive to keep themselves original.

Individuality is a commodity that many of us often overlook; many people living in oppressive countries may never experience what we have here. Your day-to-day choices should be one based on what you think best represents yourself and not just because everyone else is into it.

Otherwise we will all be living in a world of monotonous uniformity, wouldn’t that be just dreadful?

 

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Not My Problem

May 2, 2011

As we can see here- your problem is, unfortunately for you, not my problem.

Honestly, have any of you ever met this kind of people? They range from classmates who look for you to help in their projects when you haven’t even started with yours to co-workers who like to talk about how terrible their job is.

Their age groups may differ but they all have the same thing in common; they have this strange misconception that their problem should be your problem too.

One day if I had to deal with another one of these cases again I will whip out my notepad and pen and draw the above diagram as follows:

*draws a circle*

“You see this circle? Everything in it consists of the things I care about.”

*draws a cross just outside the circle*

“Your problem lies here.”

I know I sound really mean but I really am not, really. I might help an acquaintance the first time if that isn’t too much of a hassle, maybe even a second time too. But after the third time it starts getting exploitive.

Wanting to talk about or find help for a problem is very natural, but why in the world would you want to share your problems with someone you hardly know?

And although I detest random people coming to me with their problems, it is almost schizophrenic that I find friends coming to me with their problems flattering. I mean, the reason why he or she is sharing their problem with you is because they trust you to keep it to yourself or believe that you have the ability to help them out, isn’t it?

That is why I always go all out to help a buddy in need, I am sure there are some who will vouch for me, I hope.

To check if you are my friend just hop onto Facebook and look at my friends list. If your name isn’t on it then uhm…too bad.

But alas, friends being friends, they usually bring to me problems of much higher difficulties which always lead to a certain problem…

Do not laugh at how small my area of expertise is.

If you have read ‘Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus’ you would know that men pride themselves as problem-solvers and telling them your problems means you want their help solving it.

This is why men don’t like to talk about their feelings. It is something that cannot be solved easily.

And while most men get frustrated when they cannot solve a problem, I get panicky that I have failed the expectations of my friends and my ego takes a nosedive.

When that happens, I usually console myself by thinking that at least I provided a listening ear to a friend in need. That’s what we Sagittarius do best; hang out with you for a whole day talking about anything and actually enjoying it too.

So in case you need someone to listen to your woes and your sorrows you know who to look for. But check if you are on my Facebook friends list first, or else please refer to the image at the start of this column.

 

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